July 3, 2011
Note: this letter reflects my philosophy at the time based on one year of research and advocacy, but during that time and several months after, the tide has turned because of the relentless antagonism, deception, vulgarity, and depravity displayed by gay rights crusaders. I now will do everything possible to crush this insidious plague threatening our nation. God still loves gays, but He hates their immoral practices and arrogant defiance of His love.
A response to an article entitled, “Using Blacks For Saving America For Gay Marriage” by Reverend Irene Monroe, lesbian and Ford Fellow at the Harvard Divinity School
Reverend Monroe,
I applaud your fine epistle; however, I would augment the argument with some suggested considerations.
First, as a serious follower of Jesus, I am totally opposed to the hard-line, bigoted approach of many religious groups; but, I believe that homosexuality is an abnormal and immoral minority lifestyle. However, I do advocate an amoral city hall based civil union license that offers all the benefits of a traditional marriage, but carries no government or religious sanction for the gay lifestyle legitimacy or moral equality with traditional marriage.
Most activists in opposition to those against gay marriage are mistaken in their belief that it is a denial of civil rights & bigotry issue. To the contrary, overall, gay marriage opponents are purely mounting protective reaction to attempt preservation of the 6,000 year old moral marriage tradition. I contend that it is largely a moral issue and not one of civil rights. That is because I have noticed that much of the gay community is shunning a chance at a civil union with all the necessary benefits of traditional marriage and demanding a legal and social status of equality with the moral majority and desire to have an unnatural marriage equal to traditional natural moral marriage. If a group cannot be content with gaining rights, then the siege on equality is an outlandish crusade for a goal for a right that is not offered by our constitution.
Our Bill of Rights provides gays the possibility of civil union rights as I have stated; however, to go beyond that status for a moral equality with a centuries old tradition for most civilizations is beyond the scope of the American constitution. Although our Bill of Rights was based on moral principles, it is not an arbiter of specific controversial moral issues outside its targeted scope; therefore, gays must not claim civil rights according to the Bill of Rights. They must seek another avenue. But whatever course that is, wisdom is the better part of valor.
I believe that gays need to be smart in their crusade, for in the legal realm, smart moves are often more effective than blind adherence to what is perceived as right. It’s always more productive to be “wise as serpents, but harmless as doves.” To employ your example of the Black civil rights movement, as you well know, it was a long incremental & arduous road for them. Moreover, their cause was backed by a large percentage of the population compared to the gay community. In addition, Black equality was totally deserved because there was nothing intrinsically wrong with Blacks, whereas, the gay lifestyle holds great controversy over intrinsic value or morality. There is a problem in that issue that did not darken the Black civil rights quest.
Moreover, to attempt equation of Black inherently deserved rights with the gay delusional theme of deserving special civil rights as a minority is, I believe, a serious insult to the Black community as well as simply being an absurd grasping at quicksand to justify a deviant behavior. However, I hold no animosity toward gay people & I believe they need to have a solution for their want of love partnerships and the related benefits. That is why I advocate the civil union.
I am convinced that the smart move for gays is to abandon the myopic quest for equal status with hetero marriage, for which, the odds against are staggering. Though they may believe it’s right, I don’t think that anyone can overturn 6,000 years of legal precedent & majority rule in just 30 years or so, especially when only approximately 3.5 – 10% of population is gay, Bi, or trans. If they campaign for a civil union, then there is a good chance of placating the religious & moral opponents to achieve the goal.
It is extremely important, first, to gain the marriage benefits and though I don’t approve of gay relationships, I value all people and agree that they should have those rights. Therefore, expend the energy for that which holds a much higher percentage of success, otherwise the gay cause will be branded as deceptive, misguided, unrealistic, and unethical. That is, first, the issue was rights, then, it morphs into clamor for total equality and lifestyle legitimacy. Basically that will be perceived as greed & a force of minority will upon the moral majority. And in the political realm, in which this heated debate is wallowing, perception is reality – an essential axiom for the gay activists to consider. So, if perceived as deceptive and therefore unworthy, there will be a very slim chance of success. Be smart, get the rights first. Then, if the cause is truly just, rest in that confidence that over time, the playing foield can be altered. But it begs the question, why is it even necessary to coerce legal equality status when it is the rights of the civil union that are the necessary reality?
One last reflection: the gay marriage issue, for me, is complicated by the separate issues of lesbianism and male homosexual behavior. I see women together as far more understandable, acceptable, and more natural than the repulsive male kissing and practice of lurid sexual behavior. It makes my normal male skin crawl. Many ask, “Why do you care what people in love do in private?” I respond that I could care less what they do in private; my significant concern is the insidious crusade to publically force the moral majority to accept, legitimize, and legalize behavior that is quite likely to considerably contribute to the disintegration of the moral fabric of American society. In addition, I find that women have no clue of what the degenerate gay male life entails and often stridently do not want to know, which compounds the problem. They eagerly and naively support gay marriage based on the amiable outward appearance of the gay males and their own gender limited view of the gay lifestyle.
In conclusion, no matter how one views this complex dilemma, it must be thoughtfully considered that the prevailing trend of over-simplification of the issue and the resulting polarization is not conducive to a reasoned, logical, and legal solution.
Sincerely,
Jerry Clifford, the Word Guru
Rev. Monroe’s article can be viewed at: http://bit.ly/fj6T4V
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I find your comments about woman to woman as opposed to male to male sex deeply unsettling. It makes you objection to gay marriage seem purient an sleazy. I wholeheartedly agree with the lesbian single mother when she says the state should not be allowed to refuse marriage to gay couples even if religions do. States should not be run by clerics. Look at the knots the Saudis and the Iranians tie themselves in in order to function. The state should look after all of its citizens and not judge them unless they fall foul of the law. Homosexuality is not illegal so to discriminate against gay people because of the sexual hangups of any majority, is stupid. I got married because I wanted to be married, I chose not to marry in a church because I felt it would be hypocritical for me to use a church merely as a venue. I like being married. I see no reason why loving committed couples should be denied that just because people like you can’t cope with the idea of two men getting jiggy.
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Does Jesus hate me because I’m gay?
I believe that if God IS watching, he is terribly ashamed of those people who use His name to pass judgment on others. I believe if He is out there, He wants us to cherish him and love one another and create peace and kindness.
Jesus doesn’t hate me because I’m gay. I am a good person, who is kind and caring. I’m a good mother, daughter, and friend. Jesus taught about love. He walked the earth and preached peace, love, and kindness. He died so that we could have peace. Him and I would get along beautifully.
The bible teaches us to love thy neighbor. Jesus loved unconditionally and taught us to do the same. He never said “Love thy neighbor pending sexual orientation.” Jesus did not ask us to pass judgment on his behalf. He taught about love.
And gay people just want to love one another in the same way the straight people want to love one another. We are more alike than we are different.
I support an individual Church’s right to choose who to marry. A church has the right to refuse to marry any couple, for any reason and I think they should maintain that right. However, I don’t think the state should have that right. In the same way, I don’t think they should disallow two men, or two women from getting married.
You say that there is nothing intrinsically wrong with being black, and I believe there is nothing intrinsically wrong with being gay. I tried to be straight, and here is how it went: http://adventuresofasinglelesbianmother.blogspot.com/2011/05/why-i-couldnt-choose-to-be-straight.html
I find your comment about lesbians being more acceptable compared to gay men to be quite insightful. I think the reason lesbians are more acceptable to you is because you’re attracted to women. But that really shouldn’t be your basis of what is okay in the world. I think if you thought long and hard about your parents having passionate sex, you’d be really turned off and find it uncomfortable. Does that mean God hates them? Or that really overweight couple. Spend a minute picture them in the throws of naked passion. Its not pretty. But that doesn’t mean that its morally wrong. Just because it doesn’t turn you on, doesn’t mean that it’s morally wrong.
I think that “equal but separate” laws about marriage relate directly to the “equal but separate” water fountains and coffee shops for blacks and white people. There were lots of people who thought and preached there reasons for these separations in the same way you are advocating now for gay discrimination.
Your perspective on gay marriage is based on fear. God did not ask you to police the earth on his behalf. He knows that as a mere mortal you could not have been able to do it fairly. I think its really sad that you believe you can decide these things yourself and use the Lord’s name. He taught you how to love, and you’re using the strength of his name to discriminate and pass judgement on others based on how you feel about what they do.
I also strongly disagree that we are a minority with a minority issue. I live in Canada, where almost the entire population is in support of equal gay rights. We are a huge country. Perhaps where you live, or within your community you see the kinds of people who feel the same way you do, but the world is changing. You may be the last to see that God wished for us to love one another, and what you are doing is passing judgement instead.
We will not hurt you, or harm you, or take anything away from you. We only want to be treated as equals. We are equal in God’s eyes.
Truly, sincerely,
Kell – the single, lesbian mother (That God loves perfectly)